No one is coming to show you how to get out of your own way!
- No one is coming to make you get off the couch.
- No one is coming to make you apply for that dream job.
- No one is coming to get your butt to the gym.
- No one is coming to start that business for you.
- No one is coming to change your life.
You have to get out of your own way. Stop waiting to create the life you want and start taking action.
Don’t know where to start?
At some point we have to stop thinking and start doing. Thinking gets us in a lot of trouble. The way we behave impacts how we think and what we think dictates our actions. There’s a lot of ways that we can get in our own way. It’s a matter of choosing your thoughts and being deliberate about your actions.
End These 6 Behaviors To Get Out Of Your Own Way
1. Stop Criticizing yourself.
When you engage in negative self-talk, you tell yourself things like, “I’m not good enough,” “I’ll never be able to do this,” or “I always mess up.”
This negative self-talk can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading you to doubt yourself and your abilities. Instead, try to give yourself grace when you make mistakes and offer self-compassion. When you hear that inner-critic, turn down the volume on it by telling yourself, “This is just an experiment. How well it goes doesn’t say anything about me. But the fact that I tried says a lot and I’m proud of myself for trying.”
2. Stop Always wanting things to be perfect.
If you don’t feel ready, do it anyway. Waiting for the perfect time and perfect circumstances is nothing more than a fancy way to procrastinate and put things off.
You’re never going to feel ready.
You’re never going to find the perfect time. You’ll always feel nervous right before you start. You won’t have all the answers. And yes, you’re going to screw up a few times. Do it anyway.
3. Stop Comparing yourself to others
When you compare yourself to others, you may feel like you don’t measure up or that you are not as good as other people, making you feel inadequate or inferior.
It is important to note that comparisons with others are often unfair and irrational because you are not taking into account the unique circumstances, opportunities, and challenges of each person.
If you’re comparing yourself to someone who is successful and has been doing the thing for the last decade and you’re just starting out, that’s like comparing apples and oranges.
When you look at someone who is ahead of you, don’t compare, instead admire and learn from them.
4. Stop quitting before you start
Here’s the harsh truth, not trying is the biggest failure of all.
Are you really okay with that?
You think you are, because it keeps you feeling safe and comfortable.
Another harsh truth, no one ever changed their life by feeling safe and comfortable. Not ever.
If you’re outside your comfort zone, you’re doing it right.
I’m telling you, the minute you take a teeny tiny step, as you start working toward the things that you really want to do, you’re not going to feel ready. You’re going to feel outside of your comfort zone.
And that’s normal.
Growing means stretching yourself, sticking your neck out there, and taking some risks.
When you’re afraid of failing, you may avoid taking risks or trying new things.
Instead of seeing failure as a negative outcome, try to view it as an opportunity for growth and learning. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks, and that these experiences can help you build resilience and improve your skills.
5. Stop Surrounding yourself with negative people
When others criticize or put you down, it can make you doubt your abilities and feel like you are not valued or respected.
Try to recognize when other people’s opinions are starting to impact your confidence. Next, ask yourself, “Is this person someone who is living the life I want to live?”
As long as you’re not hurting anyone, it really only matters what you think. Don’t give someone who has no understanding of you or your dreams all the power.
6. Stop trying to do it alone
When you don’t have a supportive network of friends, family, or colleagues, you may feel isolated or unsupported.
Share your dreams and goals and yes, your fears around them with people who support you. It makes your dreams and goals real and shrinks all your fears.
Where can you find your people? The people who share your interests and values?
Be creative. Find a group on-line, or a local group in your community, or start a group yourself. The connection, support and fun you get from community have been proven to get people better results in less time and you don’t feel alone.
Wrapping It Up so You Can Get Out of Your Own Way Now
What are you going to stop doing? Remember, if you want to see things change, you have to do the work to change things.
No one is coming to discover you, to find you, to date you, or to rescue you.
Your life is your responsibility.