If left to simmer, fear turns to paralyzing self-doubt. There is the fear of not fitting in, of being ostracized, of disappointing others, of failure or even success.
I’m here to tell you that a life that is exciting, joyful and meaningful, is on the other side of that fear.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
I mean it. Really take some time to answer that question.
And when you find your answers, go out and plan to do exactly what you are afraid of doing.
We allow ourselves to be caged in by fear, the tiger in our mind that keeps us within the boundaries of our comfort zone. But fear, like any other emotion is just a feeling. It’s not pleasant, but if you can lean into its discomfort, you will discover endless new possibilities for yourself.
Life is short. It truly is. This past year has been a painful reminder to all of us. You may think you have time. That there will be a day that you will not be scared, and then you’ll do it.
But here’s the thing, that day will not come. The only way you will stop being afraid and stop doubting yourself is by doing exactly what you are afraid of. Stop waiting.
Ask yourself, is what I’m scared of really that important? In the bigger picture of it all, does it really matter?
The answer is no. If you focus on “why” the thing you’re afraid to do is important, you get to choose.
Why is it important for you to ask for a promotion & get a raise?
To feed your family, to take vacations, to get out of debt?
Are those things more important than your fear of your boss saying no?
Remember it’s not about your fear. A mantra I use, when I’m stuck at this point of choice, is NAM – Not About Me. It’s not about me and my fears. It’s about taking care of my family.
It’s a heavy weight to carry around living your life dictated by the limitations of the imagined fears in your head.
It is not about the absence of fear, but a way of using the fear as a compass to guide you in the right direction, knowing that whatever comes your way, you’ll deal with it.
If you’re scared of something, then it very likely is the one thing that you should be doing. And each and every time you do this, you grow in ways you never thought possible.
If you really knew and understood your time here was limited, would that change your perspective on your fears? If you knew you only had another 5 years, would that change things? A year? A month? A week?
We allow ourselves to hide under the comfortable blanket of certainty. But in the end, it won’t matter. It won’t matter that you failed at something. Get real. We all do. It comes with being human. It won’t matter that it took you longer than expected or that you didn’t do the best job of it, or that you never even succeeded.
What matters is that you succeed in life. And with that I mean, that you tried, you learned, you grew, you lived, you loved, and in some way made a difference in someone’s day.
So what are you afraid of? And what step can you take to do exactly that? What challenge can you set for yourself, big or small?
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I was afraid of making bread. I didn’t like getting my hands gummy cause I couldn’t figure out the right amount of flour. I kneaded the dough and hence the gum between my fingers. But 1 day I got out my recipe from a favorite cook and my Kitchen aide mixer didn’t knead the dough. Just let the mixer. Now no webbed fingers and my hubby and I enjoy caramel pecan sweet rolls. Next fear is going through paper stuff and things I have around house but don’t really need and getting rid of them or finding an organized place for them. Am I afraid I could actually get rid of a lot of stuff and organize the rest and not have anything left to do?!