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Have you ever experienced the “What did I come in here for?” phenomenon?

In everyday life, it’s what happens when you walk into a room and forget why you are there! Happens to everyone. How do you know you’re simply having “one of those days” or if it’s something more?

It’s ironic that people with ADHD often forget things because their memories are actually good. Read More

Looking back I cringe, “Why did I waste precious time struggling alone? Why didn’t I see that other women go through the same thing?

Mostly, because I either wasn’t listening, or women are not talking enough or at all about this.

As an ADHD Coach I witness everyday how ADHD undermines your planning, organizing, prioritizing, tracking progress, finishing tasks, and managing time, right? We know these symptoms are a result of low amounts or sluggish dopamine and norepinephrine (neurotransmitters in the brain).

Well, there’s another culprit that drags women down. It’s hormones. Read More

Are you going about the season mindlessly working your to do list?

Many people with and without ADHD find they overspend during the holiday season. Why does that happen? Read More

It feels like everyone expects you to cooperatively organize everyone without complaining, and look great while you do it.

It’s unrealistic for anyone. There’s the part of you that knows it’s unrealistic, and then there’s the part of you that pursues it anyway.

When you feel chronically strung out and stressed, you don’t feel you deserve any time for yourself.

You don’t feel entitled to relaxation or adequate sleep, and you put your own self-care on the back burner.

This saps your resources, makes you more likely to get sick or have an accident, and exacerbates your ADHD symptoms even more. Feeling awful becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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You know that one person in your life…the one who knows just what buttons to push to get a rise out of you?

Usually, this person is someone we love. Someone we trust. We give this person all this power over us, our moods, our days. It’s a choice based on the stories we tell ourselves.

We keep tripping over the same issues, and after we fall, we find it hard to get back up again.

Here’s how you can change your story.

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Grown women don’t have ADD, do they?!?

Oh, yes. In fact, women are the fastest growing population of newly diagnosed ADHDers.

Do any of these sound like you?

“I know exactly what I need to do, but I just can’t get myself to do it.”

“If I’m so smart, why do I feel so dumb?

“Why do the simplest things seem so hard for me?”

“Why can’t I get my act together?”

Have you ever felt this way? If so, you aren’t alone — in your conflicting emotions, your healing, or your chance at a new start.

Maybe you’ve gotten the ADHD diagnosis or you suspect you or someone you care about lives with it.

Here are seven steps to get the ball rolling to understanding yourself better and living the life you want to live your way!

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Bill-paying is a headache-inducing task. None of us want to watch our bank account balance dwindle away but it is a part of life. We can choose to fight it or roll with it. For many adults with ADHD, paying bills means having to tap into those areas like memory, managing time, staying on task, and organization that are challenging in all areas of life.

Money overwhelms us.

Even if we have it.

Tracking your spending, watching your impulsivity, and making a budget are all important steps in managing your money. But if you don’t have a foundation of good habits to sit down and pay the bills every month none of that matters. Your house will come crumbling down and your bank account will dwindle to zero.

6 Habits to Start Now

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Hearing the “B” word sends me into anxiety mode.

I’m talking about the word “Budget“.

Nothing will send the ADHD brain into a tailspin faster than hearing the word budget. For many adults with ADHD, managing money means having to tap into those areas like memory, managing time, staying on task, and organization that are challenging in all areas of life.

Before you try any new or old strategies, find your money motivator. I’ll share mine. See what comes up for you.

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Are your bills an uncomfortable reminder of the impulsive spending you’d rather forget…you know that top-of-the-line juicer you bought in that well-intentioned moment of eating healthier? Now you’re thinking, “It sounds like too much work anyway – and where did I put it?”

Impulsive shopping isn’t good for your bank account and it wreaks havoc on relationships.

Are your spending habits aligned with your personal and family values? Do these habits mean you can’t pay your “necessary living” bills or pay back someone who has loaned you money? Are you stressed and ashamed about your money story?

It doesn’t take willpower. It takes you wanting to change your money story. Most importantly, don’t beat yourself up. It is possible to set yourself up for success and beat the impulsive shopping monster once and for all. One conscious choice at a time, you can do this!

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Shhhh. I know it’s embarrassing. You don’t understand it. You pray no one else notices. You know? The smell; the stink of not showering. Of course you know keeping yourself clean and well groomed is healthy and socially acceptable. Anything less, is…well…not.

What the heck is going on then? Maybe you’re at one of those ages when a lot of people have a hard time with personal hygiene. Yes, there are times in our lives when it is harder for us and for lots of different reasons.

Surprise, you’re a tween. You’ve always showered but Mom is always nagging you about it now. Why are you resisting? It was never a big deal before.

Maybe you’re a new Mom. Oh boy. I remember those days. I felt so accomplished if I actually showered and put on a t-shirt that wasn’t covered in baby spit-up. New Mom’s have a great excuse. But, it doesn’t make you feel any better. In fact, you feel kind of gross.

You could be in your “golden years” and gosh darn it, you’re tired! You have every right to be. After all, you’ve spent years taking care of everyone else.

Or, you have a physical condition that makes it hard to shower. Maybe you struggle with fine motor skills.

Maybe you have ADHD and that makes it even harder.

I get it. You’re thinking, “What’s the big deal? Just shower.” Showering is a common self-care act. But common does not mean easy for those who struggle in other parts of their life with time, organization, motivation, memory, activation, and action.

So don’t beat yourself up or anyone else. Instead, you can coach yourself or someone else to figuring out what’s getting in the way of showering and what to do about it.

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Jim Carrey is a funny man. He is living proof of what is possible for those living with ADHD. Fan or not, you have to appreciate his courage to live authentically…on his own terms, in his own genuine purpose. This guy actually does what he loves, and people love him for it! He figured out how to tap into his strengths. He shares those gifts with the world.

What if someone (I mean you) gave you permission to live your genuine purpose? No matter where you are in your life, it’s never too late.

In his graduation speech to students at Maharishi University Jim Carrey illuminates the places where we all get stuck….in the past or future, in our mind of distorted thoughts, in pleasing others, in fear, in choice.

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For better or worse, what we eat affects our brains performance for the day.

The combination of foods determines if our brains make the right connections. Are you ready for the secret formula? Here we go.

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