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Shhhh. I know it’s embarrassing. You don’t understand it. You pray no one else notices. You know? The smell; the stink of not showering. Of course you know keeping yourself clean and well groomed is healthy and socially acceptable. Anything less, is…well…not.

What the heck is going on then? Maybe you’re at one of those ages when a lot of people have a hard time with personal hygiene. Yes, there are times in our lives when it is harder for us and for lots of different reasons.

Surprise, you’re a tween. You’ve always showered but Mom is always nagging you about it now. Why are you resisting? It was never a big deal before.

Maybe you’re a new Mom. Oh boy. I remember those days. I felt so accomplished if I actually showered and put on a t-shirt that wasn’t covered in baby spit-up. New Mom’s have a great excuse. But, it doesn’t make you feel any better. In fact, you feel kind of gross.

You could be in your “golden years” and gosh darn it, you’re tired! You have every right to be. After all, you’ve spent years taking care of everyone else.

Or, you have a physical condition that makes it hard to shower. Maybe you struggle with fine motor skills.

Maybe you have ADHD and that makes it even harder.

I get it. You’re thinking, “What’s the big deal? Just shower.” Showering is a common self-care act. But common does not mean easy for those who struggle in other parts of their life with time, organization, motivation, memory, activation, and action.

So don’t beat yourself up or anyone else. Instead, you can coach yourself or someone else to figuring out what’s getting in the way of showering and what to do about it.

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Jim Carrey is a funny man. He is living proof of what is possible for those living with ADHD. Fan or not, you have to appreciate his courage to live authentically…on his own terms, in his own genuine purpose. This guy actually does what he loves, and people love him for it! He figured out how to tap into his strengths. He shares those gifts with the world.

What if someone (I mean you) gave you permission to live your genuine purpose? No matter where you are in your life, it’s never too late.

In his graduation speech to students at Maharishi University Jim Carrey illuminates the places where we all get stuck….in the past or future, in our mind of distorted thoughts, in pleasing others, in fear, in choice.

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For better or worse, what we eat affects our brains performance for the day.

The combination of foods determines if our brains make the right connections. Are you ready for the secret formula? Here we go.

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What if you can’t remember your past because you never actually made memories? Is that worse than making them and then forgetting them?

I wonder who will tell this present when it becomes the past? Will future grandparents have stories that start with “I remember when I was your age…?”

I don’t know the answer to that but I do know these things to be true.

  • I can’t go back and live the past because it’s gone. Poof! Doesn’t exist.
  • And I can’t live in the future because it doesn’t exist yet.
  • The only thing that does exist is the present.

So, if I’m not existing in the present, do I exist at all?

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So you got ADHD and you want to start doing things differently. Good for you! Deciding to work with an ADHD coach is a big step. It takes tremendous courage to admit conquering ADHD all alone is, well…it’s hard! Many often feel unsure of what ADHD coaching is and even more unsure of what to expect from an ADHD coach. Here’s what to  look for in an ADHD coach.

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Are you feeling stressed? Are your neck and back muscles tight? Are you furrowing your brow? Feeling frustrated? Are you stuck? These are all signs it is time to take a break.

I know you don’t want to take a break right now. Why? Because you’re too busy. You’re going to push through and get stuff done.

Sometimes we know there’s a better way to do things, but we’re just so busy we don’t even think we have the time to find it—so we keep going like we always have.

When I started taking breaks they made me happier, more focused and more productive—and I bet they can do the same for you, whether you’re in the office or studying for a test.

Discover the science of why we need breaks at work, home and school and what to do on your hard earned break.

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Refreshing and Positive

How I think about my ADHD has shifted since coaching with Carlene. Now I can move myself out of the negative thinking and set myself up for wins. It was so refreshing to talk to someone who would celebrate things that felt big to me but were never a big deal to “normal” people! I moved out of an unhealthy living situation, see my friends more often and made peace with past family issues. Today, I’m more confident and have the tools I need to move forward with my life!”

Jennifer, Adult Client

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Approachable and Trustworthy 

“When I came home after only one semester at college, I started coaching with Carlene. She allowed me to come up with MY best way to do things. She knows what a college student with ADHD can use and implement to keep their lives and mental health as balanced as possible. I took one semester off, and returned to college completing another two semesters with less anxiety and better grades. No more doubts. I will get my degree!”

Erin, College Student

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Tapped Into My Talents 

“Through coaching, I discovered I had many strengths I was not using. Understanding how to use these strengths in my business has helped me stay focused. I’m more organized and productive. Carlene taught me how to coach myself through challenging situations so I can stay on track and have a successful business.”

Brian, Business Owner

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A True ADHD Expert

“Managing my son’s behavior was a daily struggle. Carlene helped me understand how his ADHD brain works. I’m more confident in my parenting. I can help my son in ways I never could before.”

Amy, Parent

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My Biggest Cheerleader 

I was afraid of not being ready to go off to college. My strengths were always there. It wasn’t until I started working with Carlene that I found them.

Kerry, College Student

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Improved My Productivity

“My “to-do-list” was the boss of me. I was overwhelmed. Coaching with Carlene helped me learn ways to take control of my work. Now I’m hopeful about the future!”

Keith, College Professor

You’re thinking, OMG I need an entire team? Yes! You probably already have lots of peeps on your team already and don’t even know it.

When I work with parents of younger kids we talk about the team. We name the team after the child like, “Team Joshua”. Kids relate to the team idea early on and are not intimidated by it. The team consists of different practitioners, teachers, counselors, parents, family and friends.

We get older and some of these team mates change or go away. But what about the people we need when we reach young adulthood and beyond?

Here are some team players who will support you in the most important ways. Who do you have in your life to fill these spots on your team?  Usually, these peeps are right in front of you but you’ve never noticed.

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There are options beyond medication for a lot of things. This is true for ADHD too. I recommend essential oils to friends, family and clients all the time. But then, I leave you hanging with no place to get them. It’s time I do something about that. I’m offering a way for you to get the oils you need, knowing they are the best quality out there and for a great price.

My family loves essential oils from Young Living.

We rarely visit a doctor anymore. We don’t miss as many days of work and school as we had been. I believe using these oils when the first symptoms appear from the common cold, flu, strep throat, ear infections, etc. has made all the difference.

Oils can be used with a diffuser or added to bath water and can also be applied directly to the body by rubbing them on the soles of feet, the back of the neck, the shoulders, or the forehead.

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Do you treat “help” like a 4-letter word?

What if you had more freedom to ask for what you wanted and for specific support from other people? What if you could ask for help in a confident, humble and empowering way? What if you remembered that you are worthy of other people’s help and that they want to help?

While it sounds simple enough, accepting help is challenging for all of us. It’s especially hard for those of us that believe that seeking help undermines our independence and our ability to cope.

There is a tendency to think that you “should” be able to cope alone, to manage without help, or that “life shouldn’t be this way”. It’s a tendency to see the world as it “should be” as opposed to as it actually “is.”

Wanting something to be, or something not to be based on unrealistic standards is only wishful thinking.

8 Reasons You Don’t Ask For Help and What To Do About It

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It’s the craziest thing. You mentally gear up for the teen driving years and your teen wants nothing to do with it. What’s up with that?

Statistics prove our ADHD teens are higher risk drivers, getting in more accidents and making impulsive decisions behind the wheel.

Naturally, we want to hold our teens back. In many cases this is necessary. Kuddo’s to you for doing the tough thing.

But what about teens who are so fearful of driving they avoid it at all costs? They even avoid it after getting their license.

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Do you use a to-do-list? Or, do you not bother because they don’t help you get anything done. For some our to-do-list stares back at us at the end of the day taunting us for not getting anything on it done.

Make A Kick-Butt To-Do-List

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